Blessed with a Blessed Baby

When we were READY

Our dear friends and teachers Ruchi and Sanjil had once given a priceless advice that went with us a long way.

Have kids only when you really want them and you are done with your pleasures of life. Unplanned or unwanted babies are like uninvited guests. We serve them but half heartedly. On the other hand planned and well asked for babies are like VIP chief guests. We prepare for their arrival and serve them with the best of our capabilities.

We had nothing in our head about planning a baby until we would want them. But we used to wonder how is it possible for us to get over all the pleasures of life. Our life then was full of adventures and travelling. 

Then one day a glance at a beautiful to-be mom in my office had some impact on me. The frequency of me looking at expecting mothers increased or maybe I started noticing them now. I wanted to experience the feeling of being a mother. Being a women the biggest blessing is that we can carry a baby and I did not want to miss on that.

My husband was very supportive and that's when we started thinking about it. 

We had truly lived all our pleasures and were fine to move ahead with this new milestone without any inhibitions of being bound. 

We were clear that our primary focus will now be to nurture a new life in the best possible manner. Hence, contributing to this world a brighter next generation. We were up for it!

The Preparation

Me and my husband had been very open and interested in learning advanced alchemy for couples that was just started by Ruchi and Sanjil. The concept was very unique and made complete sense to us. 

We had completed the 1st year of our marriage during which I did all the courses till arhatic prep 2 which was a mandate for advanced alchemy course. Time seemed just right for us to explore this dimension of spirituality through alchemy yoga.

We were spell bound with the knowledge we received and practiced whole heartedly for 2.5 years. 

In the 4th year of our marriage we knew we were ready to be parents. That's when we reviewed the course again and we started practicing with a view to be blessed with a baby..

After practicing for another 6 months with that perspective we planned our baby.

Benefits we got from Advanced Alchemy
My husband had always been more into spiritual practices and had been practicing them religiously. I was the lazy one there. After the advanced alchemy course I got that spiritual bent of mind where even when I wasn't doing other higher practices I always felt a spiritual balance with my husband. Alchemy practices helped us grow together as a couple. We were able to unite at emotional and spiritual levels that raised our levels of harmony, trust and respect for each other. We came across a lot of our weaknesses that we dealt together and that further added to the strength of our bond and our ability to accept each other as we are. I know we have a long way to go but we feel that alchemy practices are a very easy and fun way to spirituality and a happy and healthy life even when not planning a baby.

The Conception

Ruchi and Sanjil had mentioned that the soul chooses to come to us at the time of conception. 

We knew that moment is very important and wanted it to go perfectly. We had been practicing since quite some time now saving all the energy for this moment.

I was so sure that it would happen in the first attempt. But to my dismay, it didn't. I got very disappointed with all thoughts like my age is crossing 30 haunting my mind. Another failed attempt and I was all stressed about it.

I thought our dream of becoming parents would not suffice. 

Then we realized our mistake. In our attempts to have a baby we were getting too conscious of our practices. We were not letting ourselves free. The third time we attempted with a free mind and a loving heart and thoroughly enjoyed our experience without any expectations out of it. 

It is said that the love between the partners during the conception has a big impact on the soul to come. It becomes the foundation for the soul. I'm so glad the first two attempts were failed ones. 

I conceived this time.

We were going to be parents!

The Pregnancy

I was looking forward to a very happy pregnancy but suddenly everything was out of place as my mom passed away. Almost in depression for a month I kept looking for reasons on why this happened to me at this point of life. 

With my husband's support slowly I started recovering through the most difficult phase of my life.

By the time my bump started showing and my focus shifted to my baby..
Ruchi and Sanjil stood besides us from day one and their healings helped me and my baby both physically and psychologically.

Then there was no looking back. My husband pampered me  like a queen and the remaining months of pregnancy turned out to be very happy and special. 

Few tips:

1) Get your healing done for sure.

Throughout I was very active and healthy. I would not think that was possible without continuous healings.

2) Read as much as possible.

Knowledge is the best tool for To-be parents.

Highly recommended book is Sacred Birthing.

Had I not read this book, my experience would have been way too different.

3) Listen to soothing music. 

 I used to listen to garbh Sanskar music and classical sitar and flute. Music has a good impact on baby's brain.

4) Manage your sleep cycle.

Sleep on time. My baby always slept through night. I'm not sure if it's because I used to sleep early then but it's a good bet.

5) Connect with the life in you

I was able to spare a lot of private time with myself that I used to spend connecting with my baby. Sometimes it felt weird but other times it was very satisfactory. 

6) Do attend child birth classes

We were fortunate to choose Fernandez as our hospital. The child birth classes gave a lot of insight and confidence on what's coming.

7) Make sure your partner is with you during labor

Not only is it good for the mother but it's also a very good start for the father to connect with the baby. My labor wasn't easy but it was bearable only due to my husband's support.

8) Spiritual bent of mind

I did not meditate too much as too high energies might not be good for baby but practiced invocation and sharnagati. 

We repeated the advanced alchemy course yet again as it is said the baby learns while in the womb.

We went to Sri Sri Bangalore ashram as well during this time for advanced course for the same reason.

I enjoyed my pregnancy whole heartedly and loved how we were able to peacefully connect with our baby.

The Labor 

As time happily passed, I entered 40th week of my pregnancy.

By now everybody in family had started getting anxious as I was passing my due date.

Thankfully my doctor and midwife were calm and patiently waited for another 6 days as per the protocol of the hospital.

The advice from them was to avoid phone calls from relatives :P

On the 4th day doc gave me an option if I would want to go for induced labor. I did not want any intervention as the baby must have his time planned that we wanted to respect. We requested them to wait if that option is there and is safe off course. My doc again supported me but called me every alternate day for checkup. 

After another day, during our evening chat with our baby, we requested him to give some sign of arrival so that we can avoid any intervention. Within 2 hours my labor pain started. 

But that was just a sign as baby had his time planned a little later. I was in labor for 2 days.

My labor started with mild contractions on 8th April 2018 midnight and delivery happened on 11th April 1:15 am.

The Delivery

We had opted for water birth for the reasons we read everywhere especially in the book Sacred Birthing. 

I did not want to take epidural as then I would not feel what's happening inside me and loose connect with my baby. I wanted to ensure the baby feels connected and secure that mom is there.

When the dilation was 4 cm and pain unbearable, I decided to go into the birth pool.

That was such a relief and much bearable. My husband and midwife kept pouring water on my abdomen as that was giving a lot of relief in the pain.

In the beginning I was screaming a lot for obvious reasons. Once I entered the pool and I got some relief I happened to go within.

I was feeling the pain but I was not wasting the energy screaming. Instead I remembered all I had read about and did all my invocations.

That moment I connected with my baby. I realized that every contraction was an effort of baby to come out and by resisting the pain I was increasing the pressure on my baby and making it more difficult for him. I also realized how much pain he must be going through. With that realization after every contraction I silently cheered my baby and teamed up with him to bring him down. I said to him that your doing a great job and it's going to be okay. Mom is fine and is with you.

My pain became secondary at that point of time and within an hour I delivered a beautiful curly haired brave baby BOY..

Rudra made a single strong roar to announce his safe arrival and became peaceful within another second looking deep into his dad's eyes with great wonder. That indeed is the most beautiful and most memorable moment of our life. <3

When Thank you is just not enough 

Ruchi & Sanjil  have been an inspiration of love and bonding to an extent that those who don't know them would think its just one name. In addition they have set the bars so high on effective parenting.
Having said that, we have followed them and taken their advice in every important phase of our life. In return, they have always stood besides us like family and been silent pillars through the thick and thin.
What they offer to young arhatic couples today through advanced alchemy workshop is such a deep dug treasure that would shape your life, that would balance your life, that would bring love and harmony to you, that would make you feel satisfied and peaceful and that would enable you to understand the importance of bringing a new life to this world. 
We were able to understand that what we are today has such a deep impact on the kind of soul we attract. 
Had it not been alchemy, our life would be completely different and our baby wouldn't be who we have today. Every moment feels so blessed. The blend of love and spirituality which is the foundation of our baby is what we learned from them.

Thank you Master for always being with us and showing us the right path. 
Thank you Ruchi & Sanjil for being our healing angels, our guides, our friends and our family. 
We love you guys so much!!